Marv and I frequently speak at marriage conferences and seminars. In addition to our prepared talk, we also enjoy the Q&A time where we hear from you. Here are some of the frequently asked questions.
How did having children change your marriage relationship? Were children planned? If so, how did you decide when to have children?
We did plan to have three or four children but the timing was not always ours.  It is important for you as a couple to discuss how many children you want and when; however, be ready to adjust to what actually happens. Realize that once they arrive, they are here forever. Your responsibilities will change through the years according to their needs, but your care will continue. I am glad that we had three years to get to know each other and go through some of our adjustments before Michelle was born. Having three daughters in less than 5 years was a challenge personally and as a couple. Balancing our individual needs, our children’s needs, and keeping our marriage as a priority had to become intentional decisions to discuss and live out.Â