One of us is used to doing what was told by parents, as an act of respect, and the other is less bound to that standard. How much in-law input should we consider in making our decisions?
There are cultural differences that affect what is showing respect to your parents. These are important discussions before you get married. Do listen to input from your in-laws, but make sure that the decisions come from the two of you.  We recommend that when you do, that the “child of†shares it with their parent, with both of you present.  Â
My girlfriend shows a great amount of emotion, and I show little emotion. What advice would you give us?
Don’t get married! Just kidding! In reality, you are not going to change each other’s personalities. Be prepared to not have a lot of emotion after marriage if you do not see emotion now. On the other hand, both of you can learn behaviors to move in the other’s direction. Just because your partner does not express emotion, does not mean he does not have emotions.  Since you cannot control another human, make sure that if he/she does not show more emotion in the future, you would still commit to him/her for life.   Â