Dear Joyce,
I do not like Halloween, so I do not let my children dress up and celebrate this holiday. My oldest daughter loves dressing up and is upset with my decision. What are your thoughts?
Sharon
Dear Sharon,
I must admit that Halloween was not my favorite holiday. I never enjoyed dressing up and putting outfits together on a limited budget always seemed like a chore. Many people love to dress up and look forward to October 31st. There are so many ways to celebrate any holiday and your children will remember how YOU celebrated. Rather than talking about what is wrong with Halloween, focus on making it a day to enjoy with your family.
Most children love to get dressed up so you can enjoy planning a costume or have them put a simple costume together. I suggest that you focus on the “treating†part of Halloween. Here are some ideas:
- If you are uncomfortable with “trick-or treating,” have your children dress up and hand out the treats to the children that come to your house. Follow that up with your own family “party!â€
- Make cookies or buy candies that you pass out at a local retirement home. Older people love seeing children and would enjoy seeing little ones dressed up.
- Some families prefer to have their children “trick or treat†at just their close neighbors and friends homes.
- Plan a party with your friends so the children can enjoy apple cider, bobbing for apples, and seeing each other in costume.
- Most shops in malls have treats to hand out to kids and it is a safe way for your family to enjoy the evening.
- Many local churches host Halloween or Harvest celebrations to enjoy as a family.
Remind your daughter that you are a wonderful mother and that she has a great family. Tell her to start thinking about her costume and that as a family you have chosen a way to celebrate this upcoming holiday.
Love, Joyce