Do you get stressed out by certain relationships in your family? Whiny preschooler? Forgetful child? Strong-willed teen? Nagging wife? Workaholic husband? Overbearing in-laws? How do we make connections in our home so that we can build and protect the heart of our family?
Home Improvement
A common relationship buster in the family home is overcommitment. We just don’t have enough time! What are some typical symptoms? We are always busy, or we become self-absorbed. This usually results in fatigue and frustration. And who usually pays the price for our frustration? Our spouse and kids. Another relationship buster can be our personal past life experiences. In this case, we may have a hard time getting close to people and avoid close friendships. Our coping mechanisms result in a life filled with activity (to fill the void), attachment to things (instead of people), withholding or withdrawing (to self-protect), or over-control.
So what are some relationship builders that can help heal relationships and draw us closer?
- Your words
- Your presence
- Your support
- Your respect
We are given a great guideline in Colossians as it reminds walk with compassion, forgive each other, be thankful, and let the peace of Christ live in our heart.
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.
Colossians 3:12-15 [NIV]
A strong connection requires BOTH quality and quantity time. Here are some home decorating tips that will help with those relationship builders:
- Read together
- Talk when you walk or drive
- Play games
- Listen to your child one on one so they know you are interested in THEM
- Snuggle
- Work as a team with family chores, projects, serving others, sports, ministry, etc.
- Have a weekly family night
- Connect – then direct
- Short trips or vacations
- Take your child out for one on one time
- Play their favorite music in the car
- Develop a hobby/interest together
Be intentional to remind your children (AND SPOUSE) how great they are as you celebrate their giftings. The simple phrases like:
I believe in you
You can do this
I am listening
Will you forgive me?
I forgive you
go a long way!