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Discipline is a word that evokes a variety of emotions in people. It is the fear when you got in trouble. It is the “Charlie Brown” lecture that falls to deaf ears. It is the frustrated mom at her wit’s end. It is the time-out or spanking. It is a memory of a raging parent. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As parents, if we dig deeper into our hopes for our children, we can reinterpret discipline as a means of connecting instead of disconnecting.\u00a0Discipline can be about creating boundaries of freedom<\/strong> as we reinforce the foundation of our family.\u00a0Creating boundaries eliminates the need to micromanage. It liberates us from overseeing every little detail to the point of causing irritation and conflict. Clear boundaries help us focus on the important issues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We break down discipline into four basic components:\u00a0teaching, reprimanding, correcting, and training in righteousness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Teaching – “What am I supposed to do?”<\/strong>\u00a0Teaching is when we set the standard. Isaiah 2:3 states, “He will teach us his ways so that we may walk in his paths.”\u00a0Teaching is the most effective when we MODEL and MENTOR.\u00a0Even our parental mistakes are opportunities to model confession and forgiveness in front of our children.<\/li>
  2. Reprimanding – “What did I do?”<\/strong>\u00a0Reprimanding is identifying the behavior different from the standard.\u00a0We should let the child take responsibility for his action (every problem has an owner), but at the same time affirm your love for him.\u00a0Focus on the ACTION, but don’t presume motivation, attach history, or attack character.\u00a0It’s OK to let your kids “fail”; it allows them the opportunity for correction.<\/li>
  3. Correcting – “How can I make it right?”<\/strong>\u00a0Correcting is fixing the wrong.\u00a0A tendency for many parents is to ask, “What were you thinking?!\u00a0Why did you . . . ?!”\u00a0Most\u00a0of the time the answer will be, “I don’t know,” because sometimes they really don’t know, or we won’t be satisfied by their response anyway.\u00a0Instead, ask, “How did this happen? What steps lead to this?”\u00a0<\/em>Don’t be afraid of your child’s poor choices, rather, have him plan what they CAN DO to correct the wrong and clean up the messes.<\/li>
  4. Training in Righteousness – “What can I do from now on?”<\/strong>\u00a0To train is to learn a new way.\u00a0As a coach, we think of new plays and give them opportunity to practice.\u00a0As your child’s personal character trainer, watch him in action, praise and encourage when they do right, and prepare him to make good choices with unlimited options.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Rather than being reactive in situations, it helps to think long term.\u00a0The heart building never stops.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Discipline is a word that evokes a variety of emotions in people. It is the fear when you got in trouble. It is the “Charlie Brown” lecture that falls to deaf ears. It is the frustrated mom at her wit’s end. It is the time-out or spanking. It is a memory of a raging parent. 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