{"id":221,"date":"2011-10-30T23:00:43","date_gmt":"2011-10-31T06:00:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/?p=221"},"modified":"2011-10-18T11:17:41","modified_gmt":"2011-10-18T18:17:41","slug":"growing-in-security","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/","title":{"rendered":"Growing in Security"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>How do we raise a confident child?\u00c2\u00a0 One who has the courage to stand up for what they believe?\u00c2\u00a0 One who will try new things?\u00c2\u00a0 One who will face their fears?\u00c2\u00a0 It is hard to give your child a sense of security when you feel insecure yourself.\u00c2\u00a0 As parents, one of our goals is to give your children a glimpse of security so that they will learn to put their security in God, who is always there.<\/p>\n

Building Security in Ourselves<\/h4>\n

The best safeguard for the younger generation is a good example by the older generation.\u00c2\u00a0 Before building security in your child, we need to look at how to define our own security as a person, partner, and parent.\u00c2\u00a0 As an individual, we need to accept God’s unconditional love for us<\/span><\/em>.\u00c2\u00a0 <\/em>Our God is our helper and our comfort.\u00c2\u00a0 He hears our cry and is gracious when we need help.\u00c2\u00a0 Nothing will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.\u00c2\u00a0 [Romans 8:39]<\/em>\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0 Secondly, we recognize that we need to take care of our needs.\u00c2\u00a0 Do you have certain survival-musts?\u00c2\u00a0 Exercise, quiet time, connecting with a friend, a cup of coffee with today’s newspaper?\u00c2\u00a0 We need to refuel so that we have something left to give.<\/p>\n

When we come with our wellness, we can then share our resources to BLESS our spouse.\u00c2\u00a0 We can draw on our spouse for our needs, and in turn, use our strengths to support one another.\u00c2\u00a0 Once there are two healthy, cared for lovers<\/em>, they can love their child as they have loved.\u00c2\u00a0 This is not to say that this will all be easy.\u00c2\u00a0 But rather, it is an opportunity to examine inward, identify our own insecurities, and work on them so that we don’t pass them along.<\/p>\n

Making Our Children Feel Secure<\/h4>\n

There are four components of security:<\/p>\n

    \n
  • Belonging<\/strong> – There is security knowing someone is there for me; building trust.<\/li>\n
  • Being Disciplined<\/strong> – There is security knowing that someone loves me enough to set boundaries; setting limits & following through.<\/li>\n
  • Having Rituals<\/strong> – There is security in living in a predictable home; nap routine, nighttime rituals, mealtimes, chores, family night, etc.<\/li>\n
  • Experiencing Traditions<\/strong> – There is security in seeing a connection between the past and the present; holidays, birthdays, vacations.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    The key to these is consistency.\u00c2\u00a0 Same people, same rules, same schedule, same memories.\u00c2\u00a0 Consistency doesn’t mean being rigid, but rather, being strong and flexible<\/em>.<\/p>\n

    Raising A Child With Courage<\/h4>\n

    What is a courageous child?<\/p>\n

      \n
    • One who is secure in relationships and working with others<\/li>\n
    • One who is knowledgeable about truths (knowing right & wrong)<\/li>\n
    • One who feels some sense of competency<\/li>\n
    • One who can be encouraged by his effort, not just for performance (courage to try new things without the expectation of perfection)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      Making it Practical:\u00c2\u00a0<\/strong> What can I reinforce in my child so they grow up feeling secure?<\/p>\n

       <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

      How do we raise a confident child?\u00c2\u00a0 One who has the courage to stand up for what they believe?\u00c2\u00a0 One who will try new things?\u00c2\u00a0 One who will face their fears?\u00c2\u00a0 It is hard to give your child a sense of security when you feel insecure yourself.\u00c2\u00a0 As parents, one of our goals is to give your children a glimpse of security so that they will learn to put their… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":222,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9,16,8,6,34,29,17,10],"tags":[48],"class_list":["post-221","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-daughters","category-fathers","category-marriage","category-mothers","category-parenting-2","category-preschool","category-relationships","category-sons","tag-security"],"yoast_head":"\nGrowing in Security - Warm an' Loving Ministries<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Warm an\u2019 Loving is a non-profit counseling and training center dedicated to helping heal individuals, couples, and families through professional counseling and seminars.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Growing in Security - Warm an' Loving Ministries\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Warm an\u2019 Loving is a non-profit counseling and training center dedicated to helping heal individuals, couples, and families through professional counseling and seminars.\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Warm an' Loving Ministries\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/warmanloving\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2011-10-31T06:00:43+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/20111030-Post-FeatImg.jpg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"900\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"400\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"admin\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@mjwarmanloving\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@mjwarmanloving\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"admin\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"2 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Article\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#article\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/\"},\"author\":{\"name\":\"admin\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#\/schema\/person\/d647648ab1d90ce2777daa3a4e1b29fd\"},\"headline\":\"Growing in Security\",\"datePublished\":\"2011-10-31T06:00:43+00:00\",\"mainEntityOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/\"},\"wordCount\":492,\"commentCount\":0,\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#organization\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/20111030-Post-FeatImg.jpg\",\"keywords\":[\"security\"],\"articleSection\":[\"Daughters\",\"Fathers\",\"Marriage\",\"Mothers\",\"Parenting\",\"Preschool\",\"Relationships\",\"Sons\"],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"CommentAction\",\"name\":\"Comment\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#respond\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/\",\"name\":\"Growing in Security - Warm an' Loving Ministries\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#website\"},\"primaryImageOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#primaryimage\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/20111030-Post-FeatImg.jpg\",\"datePublished\":\"2011-10-31T06:00:43+00:00\",\"description\":\"Warm an\u2019 Loving is a non-profit counseling and training center dedicated to helping heal individuals, couples, and families through professional counseling and seminars.\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#primaryimage\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/20111030-Post-FeatImg.jpg\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/20111030-Post-FeatImg.jpg\",\"width\":\"900\",\"height\":\"400\"},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Growing in Security\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/\",\"name\":\"Warm an' Loving Ministries\",\"description\":\"Preventing the Hurting, Helping the Healing\",\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#organization\"},\"alternateName\":\"Warm an Loving\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Organization\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#organization\",\"name\":\"Warm an' Loving Ministries\",\"alternateName\":\"Warm an' Loving\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/\",\"logo\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/2018-WL-Logo-drawn.jpg\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/2018-WL-Logo-drawn.jpg\",\"width\":2048,\"height\":2048,\"caption\":\"Warm an' Loving Ministries\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\"},\"sameAs\":[\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/warmanloving\",\"https:\/\/x.com\/mjwarmanloving\"]},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#\/schema\/person\/d647648ab1d90ce2777daa3a4e1b29fd\",\"name\":\"admin\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/db3e5fcac7be14a44f8bb180ecab330fff9669211e454ce90fbfca4d5c403943?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/db3e5fcac7be14a44f8bb180ecab330fff9669211e454ce90fbfca4d5c403943?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"admin\"},\"url\":\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/author\/admin\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Growing in Security - Warm an' Loving Ministries","description":"Warm an\u2019 Loving is a non-profit counseling and training center dedicated to helping heal individuals, couples, and families through professional counseling and seminars.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Growing in Security - Warm an' Loving Ministries","og_description":"Warm an\u2019 Loving is a non-profit counseling and training center dedicated to helping heal individuals, couples, and families through professional counseling and seminars.","og_url":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/","og_site_name":"Warm an' Loving Ministries","article_publisher":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/warmanloving","article_published_time":"2011-10-31T06:00:43+00:00","og_image":[{"width":900,"height":400,"url":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/20111030-Post-FeatImg.jpg","type":"image\/jpeg"}],"author":"admin","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@mjwarmanloving","twitter_site":"@mjwarmanloving","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"admin","Est. reading time":"2 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/"},"author":{"name":"admin","@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#\/schema\/person\/d647648ab1d90ce2777daa3a4e1b29fd"},"headline":"Growing in Security","datePublished":"2011-10-31T06:00:43+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/"},"wordCount":492,"commentCount":0,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#organization"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/20111030-Post-FeatImg.jpg","keywords":["security"],"articleSection":["Daughters","Fathers","Marriage","Mothers","Parenting","Preschool","Relationships","Sons"],"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"CommentAction","name":"Comment","target":["https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#respond"]}]},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/","url":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/","name":"Growing in Security - Warm an' Loving Ministries","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/20111030-Post-FeatImg.jpg","datePublished":"2011-10-31T06:00:43+00:00","description":"Warm an\u2019 Loving is a non-profit counseling and training center dedicated to helping heal individuals, couples, and families through professional counseling and seminars.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/20111030-Post-FeatImg.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/20111030-Post-FeatImg.jpg","width":"900","height":"400"},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/growing-in-security\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Growing in Security"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#website","url":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/","name":"Warm an' Loving Ministries","description":"Preventing the Hurting, Helping the Healing","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#organization"},"alternateName":"Warm an Loving","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#organization","name":"Warm an' Loving Ministries","alternateName":"Warm an' Loving","url":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/2018-WL-Logo-drawn.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/2018-WL-Logo-drawn.jpg","width":2048,"height":2048,"caption":"Warm an' Loving Ministries"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/"},"sameAs":["https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/warmanloving","https:\/\/x.com\/mjwarmanloving"]},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#\/schema\/person\/d647648ab1d90ce2777daa3a4e1b29fd","name":"admin","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/db3e5fcac7be14a44f8bb180ecab330fff9669211e454ce90fbfca4d5c403943?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/db3e5fcac7be14a44f8bb180ecab330fff9669211e454ce90fbfca4d5c403943?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"admin"},"url":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/author\/admin\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/221","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=221"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/221\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/222"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=221"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=221"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=221"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}