{"id":139,"date":"2011-08-12T19:00:27","date_gmt":"2011-08-13T02:00:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/?p=139"},"modified":"2011-08-12T19:14:21","modified_gmt":"2011-08-13T02:14:21","slug":"dear-joyce-my-husband-i-disagree-on-parenting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/dear-joyce-my-husband-i-disagree-on-parenting\/","title":{"rendered":"Dear Joyce, My husband &#038; I disagree on parenting . . ."},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/02\/20110815-Post.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-200\" title=\"Parenting Conflict A\" src=\"http:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/02\/20110815-Post.jpg\" alt=\"Becki Riggs Photography\" width=\"480\" height=\"320\" srcset=\"https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/02\/20110815-Post.jpg 800w, https:\/\/warmanloving.org\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/02\/20110815-Post-300x199.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 480px) 100vw, 480px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Dear Joyce,<\/p>\n<p>My husband and I argue about how to raise our two children. We have disagreement in parenting styles, on consequences and most everything regarding our children.<\/p>\n<p>Mary<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><em>Dear Mary,<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>It is very common to have different opinions on how to raise your children.\u00c2\u00a0 You were raised in different homes with different styles so you are both comfortable with your upbringing.\u00c2\u00a0 When parents are tired, they tend to go on auto-pilot (the way they were raised).\u00c2\u00a0 Disagreements in parenting usually come when one of us specializes or errs on one side or the other of God\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s character of justice and mercy.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Here are some recommendations:<\/em><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><em> Respect the side of God your partner best represents.\u00c2\u00a0 He may be the \u00e2\u20ac\u0153fun loving, softer parent.\u00e2\u20ac\u2122\u00c2\u00a0 Your child needs your firmness, with a balance of flexibility.<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>Talk about it &#8211; \u00e2\u20ac\u0153We are arguing a lot in front of our children.\u00c2\u00a0 Let\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s discuss this sometime when we are less angry and tired.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>Start with a wish list of character qualities you want to see in your children when they grow up, i.e. something you can hopefully agree about.\u00c2\u00a0 Begin modeling those character qualities for your children \u00e2\u20ac\u201c a new focus!<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>Pray for each other \u00e2\u20ac\u201c you will argue less often!<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>Understand that principles should match, practices can vary.\u00c2\u00a0 Work on agreeing about the big issues such as respect, obeying, . . . and apply it the way it works for you.\u00c2\u00a0 You will be plenty busy without trying to control how your spouse applies the principles.<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><em>Love, Joyce<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Joyce, My husband and I argue about how to raise our two children. 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